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In reply to Post #23
Thank you Mate
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In reply to Post #22
Hi, sorry for the late reply, we found a local office from the web and had a few words for advice, then made an appointment for a meeting at the office, then it was all down to my son and "the expert", each case can be very different so my advice is to speak to Mind and have a chat, you have everything to gain, good luck. 
LINK FOR MIND
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In reply to Post #21
Hello,
How did you go about getting help for your son from Mind?
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My son had depression for years he kept it well hidden, we didn't know, one time in his teens he went missing for 3 days, we still don't really know where he went as we contacted all of his friends, he got married some years later but that didn't last, he came down to Devon from London to live with us for about 6 months, he had no responsibilities we saw to that, my wife saw a job going in a cafe, just a washer up but a start back to normal, he went out day after day looking for work even in places that was not advertising, after a little while he had 3 part time jobs, thing were looking up, then we heard about "Mind" an organisation that could help, he had a couple of visits and felt much happier with life after them, after moving back to London into his own rented flat he took up driving lessons (god, he is not a natural driver) cycled all of his life, he passed his driving test and now drives a powerful motor bike that sounds like a bloody thunder storm coming down the road, he has done so well....we are proud of what he has achieved, we are all different and need different way to succeed, I wish you luck for your long successful future .  
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In reply to Post #18
I hope it does for you mate. For that to happen as a starting point you got to take stock of what’s causing you to feel the way you do.
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In reply to Post #18
Yeah I mean quit the booze
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In reply to Post #17
Just hoping it gets easier.
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In reply to Post #16
Try and get out in the countryside , without any booze ,nothing better , don't drink on your own , to excess ,nothing worse !
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In reply to Post #13
Does anyone find quite the booze helps?
I take it you meant quit the booze? Binging is probably the worst thing you can do but a wee dram isn't likely to hurt (unless you are on medication that will react to it.)
Depression can be a terrible place to be and I've known friends who have had it and it can be a monster. The first step to overcoming it is recognising you have it, which you have and then taking steps to recover.
Having a job you hate is probably dragging you down but at the moment but with the present economic climate, there aren't a lot of options. Turn a negative into something like, at least I have a job, is one step to make it more bearable.
Fishing, countryside walks and exercise will improve your well being. Make plans to do at least one activity a week that you enjoy and just looking forward to it will make things more bearable.
Hope you can take something from this and can look forward to a more positive future.
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In reply to Post #13
Think that’s where I’m going wrong as I don’t really touch the stuff much.
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In reply to Post #8
Noise believe it or not.
I have an app on my phone with different nature noise choices, wind, rain falling etc etc. My favorite is the sea lapping on shore, set it to run for an hour at the lowest level poss and always fall asleep.
Another good one is a resting heart beat, it's the first thing you ever heard and about the only thing you heard for 9 months, your brain associates the sound subconsciously with safety and security.
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In reply to Post #12
Does anyone find quite the booze helps?
Not a huge drinker but still have a bit each week
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In reply to Post #8
I found putting on pj’s a couple hours before bedtime worked pretty good in the sense that it differentiated between still been overactive if you like and settling down.
Could be worth a try in that pj’s help in calming before bed as they put you in a relaxed state of mind.
Edit - If my age just don’t p155 in ya slippers.
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In reply to Post #10
Yep , wish i'd put a jonny on first , took ages to shift the dose i got !
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In reply to Post #9
has anyone come out of deep dark tunnel?
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In reply to Post #8
Exercise is a well known way of improving sleep.
A walk (or run if you are that way inclined ) lunchtime perhaps.
I sleep like a log after a day cutting wood🙂
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In reply to Post #7
Thanks, everyone,
Today has been hell but reading these has made me feel better.
Do any of you have tips to sleep better at night on sleeping pills at the moment but wondering if there is another way?
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In reply to Post #4
Good advice too.
I guess that you know what the cause of your depression is and as such I’d strongly suggest that if it’s something you feel is beyond yourself then firstly you must seek advice from a doctor and then take it from there.
Same as already said ‘money isn’t everything’ and I found out that by having a job I loved but the pay not as good but I was happy. Happy until the company that I worked for lost the tender when it came up for renewal. Unfortunately the company that did win the tender made my life an absolute misery due to working practices that were taking place which in turn took a toll on my health. Under terms of previous employment if I was off sick then I would get 100% of my wages, then so long after 80% etc etc. Did I then have the time off?, you bet I did and I even sought counselling where I’d shift all the blame onto my new employers ‘which, yes it was all their fault’. I took all that I could in terms of sick money because they were a shocking company to work for. I even has union representation in the end and tried ‘unsuccessfully’ to bring a case against them for discrimination regards shocking working practices. After I’d took all I could in sick pay my union thrashed out a deal that would see me paid off for the years services I had given, which was only £2,000 but it was something and I was happier ‘though still hurt as I loved that job’’ that I was out of that hell hole.
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In reply to Post #1
Hi Thomas, have you ever thought about getting a pet? Maybe a dog or cat? Animals have amazing powers, providing you like animals that is and research shows that just being around an animal can have a positive affect on us. It comes with responsibility though which is not a bad thing as it gives you purpose
Something worth thinking about but remember it is a two way thing and for all the love you get from an animal you have to give back in equal measure
I hope things work out well for you Thomas and like others have said no matter how bad things may seem there is always light at the end of the tunnel, try to stay positive and get out to the great outdoors, I tend to think staying cooped up at home doesn’t help with anyone’s mental health, I certainly know that it helps me
Good luck mate
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In reply to Post #1
Get yourself down the Dr's mate.
Don't suffer in silence, tell him how you feel and the medication you're on isn't working.
Best advice I ever had was don't carry on doing things that make you unhappy. What did you enjoy about angling? If you can't face getting your gear together and going, don't. Maybe just put your outdoor clobber on and go for a walk around local waters with a set of binoculars or a camera. Have a chat with anglers you meet etc.
Good luck and it's never as bad as it seems
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In reply to Post #3
Good advice from Tazi
We spend a significant amount of our lives working so it’s very important to enjoy it.
Money isn’t everything and perhaps even consider other jobs in different areas, along with a move perhaps.
I’ve temporarily lived and worked close to London and although the money was good I couldn’t wait to get back to the West Country.
Obviously not the best time to look for another job but they are out there so be patient. Probably best not to quit your job first but hopefully just looking for a change might give you a lift.
I’ve always enjoyed starting fishing on new lakes, easy or hard they all have their own challenges and personally I like to have a mix.
Perhaps someone in your area can make some suggestions.
Hope it all works out for you
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In reply to Post #1
Nothing worse than being in a job that you hate as many many secondary issues can be born from that.
I used to love my job but not the management and I’d have panic attacks just at the thought of going into work.
Even when I was on my annual leave I still couldn’t unwind fully as I’d always be counting down the days until I was back in work.
Find something you’re good at and enjoy and try to find employment around that.
All the best Thomas.
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Hi Thomas
There's plenty of info on here where you might find something about lakes near to you that might give you a bit of inspiration.
YouTube is fantastic too, plenty of great videos that are bound to get you itching to get out on the bank again.
Plenty of other stuff like preparing rigs and making bait that are entertaining in their own right.
Get into the forum, ask lots of questions - there are lots of decent folk on here who will be more than happy to help. Some of them even know what they're on about ..
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Hell,o my name is Thomas.
I have suffered from depression for years been on different antidepressants and sleeping tablets or to try and keep me sane.
I'm off work at the moment for holiday from a job that I hate.
Trying to use this time to go fishing but cant find the joy or passion I used to have. I may be crap at it but still used be something I enjoyed.
fed up of just putting a brave face on every day and carrying on.
They say life is precious I just cant see the point of it.
feel like just selling my gear and quitting my job and hiding inside for the rest of my life.
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